June 27, 2015
A Letter To My Gay Friends
However, it should be our mutual desire that our differences will not cause a disruption or interruption in our friendship. I am determined to demonstrate my God’s love while revealing His truth to the world, and without fear. That means that I will continue to believe in "Biblical marriage" as the standard, but I recognize that this world has determined otherwise. I will respect your right to embrace this new law, as I hope you respect mine to continue to endorse God's law.
I would never presume to deny any person's capacity to love; after all, it is the second most important commandment in the Bible. I simply believe that the concept of marriage is greater than any "rights" determined by man or court. It is my understanding that the Supreme Court was deciding whether the states were denying gay couples their "civil rights" by banning gay marriage in their individual states. It is also my understanding that "civil rights" refers to the rights of citizens to political and social freedom and equality. And obviously, the Supreme Court ruled that gay marriage advocates are due those rights, as it pertains to the legal description. It is now the law of the land and you have been granted those legal rights. I understand why you would celebrate that.
But I would like to explain that my definition of marriage goes beyond anything this world defines as political or social "rights", and it aligns with the Bible. To me, God's laws are higher than man's laws. It's that simple. And because you are my friend, I am assuming that you know that God's opinion matters more to me than this culture's or the world. That's why I take it to heart when the Word says, "Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother [the Bible's definition of a family], and shall cleave [join to] his wife; and they shall be one flesh [resulting in a child]." It was divinely ordained by God that marriage would consist of one man and one woman, for the express purpose of continuing His creation. I know that's not sexy or romantic, but I believe marriage to be holy and sanctified; and it should be divinely interpreted by the One who created it, not a nine-person court ruled by their political and social opinions.
I have no desire to legislate anyone's relationship or condemn or judge the matter of love between two people; and I can understand your resolve to establish a legal definition of your partnership. That is understandable and reasonable. But I would like to request that my rights to my religious freedom (including my opinion, and how I act out my faith in this world) neither be challenged, questioned, or disputed. That, too, is the law of the land.
As far as I am concerned, this Supreme Court ruling changes nothing as far as our friendship. I will continue to proclaim my allegiance to God's Word in all matters, while continuing to share that my Lord died for us all. It is my fervent prayer that we can all live in the Light, and come to fellowship with each other; that the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from all sin.
Undoubtedly, this ruling will lead to further challenges to my Christian faith, and I need you to understand that I cannot compromise my beliefs or disobey God. I am not only a hearer of the Word, but a doer. I do not think it too difficult to agree to mutually respect each other, and treat our differences with courtesy and civility. There is no need for me to prolong this discussion or even make it a focus of my life. In the end, God is my Authority, and I must rest on His Word.
James 5:16 "Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working]."