As a follow-up to yesterday's post, I want to encourage all women who have taken the time to check in on this blog. It's been interesting --- I've found that oftentimes, it is the women who have had the first intuitive hint that things just haven't been right. Of course, if you are beginning to know me through this site, you know that I give credit where credit is due. For me, I believe that the Holy Spirit began nudging me a few years ago. I began to see "behind the curtain", so to speak, and I discovered that things were being manipulated and misrepresented.
Somehow, I could see a bigger picture than was being presented to the masses. Fortunately, and not coincidentally, my husband was a few steps ahead of me, and together we were able to form our own conclusions and map our own path to navigating these dangerous waters. I am also blessed to be married to a man who values my opinions and listens to what I have to say. We make a formidable team!
If your husband has a history of clear, calm decision-making and sound judgment; if you can vouch for his commitment to you and your family; if you can characterize him as a man of ethics and moral strength---and if he feels he should take rational steps to protect and provide for you and his family--- then you would be wise to listen to him and follow his lead.
Ask him to sit down with you and explain why he feels the need to take these steps. Ask him if there are reference materials you can read that will help you to make up your own mind, and know which questions to ask. Tell him you are frightened and need to take this slow.
Acknowledge that you, too, are interested in protecting your family. Tell him that feeling secure is critical to a woman's peace of mind and stability. Have him clarify why his new frame of mind and course of action will contribute to your family's security.
But most importantly, get on the same page with him; even if it's to a lesser degree. When you are both pulling in the same direction, you can achieve goals and lighten your load. And finally, this is not about submitting to your husband. This is about coming to a knowledgeable, well-informed and confident consensus, where you both contribute to your family's successful journey.
Proverbs 31:10-12 "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."
P.S. Today is the 50th wedding anniversary of my wonderful in-laws. I can think of no other example that better represents a wife who lovingly supports her husband, and is so valued for her wisdom, her faith, and her love of family. Happy Anniversary, Beth Ann!